Friday, January 2, 2015

The Plaque of Insecurities

A friend and I were recently discussing insecurities.  We were feeling frustrated that we are plagued with various ones.  We are Jesus girls, by golly, and we want complete freedom over things that cause our hearts to wilt a bit when ugly winds whip through our minds.

We pray, we read our Bibles, we make choices that honor Jesus, we use edifying language yet, at times, we can feel icky.

I'm guessing you are shaking your head because you get exactly what I'm saying. 

My friend and I discussed how these insecurities can make us feel so defeated at times.  Not because we allow them to overtake our hearts, but because we feel like phony Jesus girls. 

I mean, really, shouldn't we have all of our stuff together?  Shouldn't our bags be empty and nicely tucked in our well organized closets?

Thankfully, Jesus does not think the way we think!!  He doesn't see us as phony girls.  He sees us as girls who are trying with all of our might to live for Him and by His word.  He knows that the world can bring us down and cause us to hang our heads sometimes.

The good news is that we are the only ones beating ourselves up.  When we are down and out because of an insecurity, Jesus reaches down His hand and waits for us to grab on so He can pull us back up.  He doesn't shake His head and say, "Ugh!!  What a phony loser.  I am so not wasting my time!"

My friend and I came to a couple of conclusions...

1.  If Jesus expected us to never feel an insecurity, He wouldn't have included verses in the Bible about leaning on Him when we are weary.
{Matthew 11:28...Come to Me, all of you are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.}

2.  When we are plagued with an insecurity, it is in the way we handle it that matters.  Will we give in to the insecurity and believe the lies or will we go to Jesus and let Him build us back up?  Will we be victims or victors?
{Philippians 1:27...Live your life in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ.}

Jesus doesn't promise us that our lives will be peachy keen and trouble free.  He does promise, however, that He will be with us every step of the way.  We don't have to feel shame because our hearts feel insecure at times.  We don't have to be robots that try and convince ourselves that life is perfectly wonderful.  We are instructed to tell Jesus and then let Him mend our hearts. 

There is great peace when we stop trying to be perfect and we allow our hearts to be soothed by our King.

May you never feel shame over an insecurity-


  1. Oh Marci, thank you for writing this. You see, I am a very shy person {my husband calls me his sweet wall flower}. I would definitely call my shyness an insecurity so your words today really hit home. Blessings to you, dear one!

  2. Like Stephanie, I am a pretty shy introvert as well so I know all about insecurities. Throw in a good dose of not having much of a supportive family during my adolescent and young adult years and you definitely have a good diagnosis for insecurity. Sigh. I battle this all the time. Thank you for reminding me that we don't need to be perfect for God to accept us!

  3. Living in this fallen world, it seems there are insecurities that come up everywhere. Thank you for this encouragement. I often remind myself that Jesus has overcome the world. When I put my trust in Him rather than in myself, it seems my insecurities have much less of a hold over me.

  4. I, too have struggled with insecurities. And that need, pressure to be perfect. I am so glad that God accepts us where we are and works with us and helps us with our insecurities. What a blessing to read your kind words that encouraged my heart. God bless~ Lisa :O)

  5. Hi Marci,
    I've been taking a bit of a blogging break, so I've not been around much of late, but I wanted to stop in and tell you that I received your book in the mail over the Christmas holidays. It was one of those Christmas treats I gave myself. :)

  6. The enemy loves using our insecurities against us. We have to remember that voice inside our head breaking us down us his, trying to fill us with darkness. And God's light can and always will overcome the dark.



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