Wednesday, February 6, 2013

Overcoming pain

I am currently working through the Bible study "Breaking Free" by Beth Moore.  It is amazing, hard, and liberating.  As I opened my workbook this morning and saw the title of the day, I shuddered.  This was the title:  Hearts Broken in Childhood.

As I worked through the lesson, I cried and stopped to pray often.  I know, without a doubt, that my Savior loves me.  However, I still carry around a great deal of pain in my heart due to things that happened to me as a child.  Thankfully, Jesus shows up everyday ready to work through things with me.

He knew exactly what I needed to hear from Him today.  I tend to still feel shame over my childhood.  I tend to still wonder if I did something wrong.  I sometimes feel condemned and believe that I am a bad child because I don't allow my parents to guilt me into taking blame and responsibility for their behaviors and actions.  

I know that I am not the only one who has ever suffered through pain, rejection, and abuse.  Therefore, I want to share with you what I learned in my lesson this morning.

  1. "God does not minimize the things that break our hearts.  He is not looking down on us thinking how petty we are because some things hurt us so." (p. 107 Breaking Free workbook)
  2. "Based on the contexts of Matthew 18:6 and 10, I believe we can assume that He was saying not only, "What you do for a child, you do for Me," but "What you do to a child, you do to Me."  He obviously takes harm to children very personally." (p. 109)
  3. "The Bible teaches us that some hardships are specifically ordained by God for the purpose of our growth and refining. Child abuse is not one of them.  When you are trying to discern whether God or satan is the author of a hardship, one of your best clues is whether or not sin is involved." (p. 109)
  4. "Shame is satan's stamp of approval." (p. 110)

Romans 8:28 tells us that God WILL work ALL things out for good for those who love Him.  He can take our pain and turn it into something amazing.  I know for me, He has used my pain to teach me how to truly love my family.  I am overly aware of the world and what is in it.  God uses my experiences to protect my children from what the world wants them to dive into.  He speaks to my heart about His love and urges me to share it with my children.  Praise God, they know what it feels like to be unconditionally loved by me, their dad, and especially their Father.  My pain is being used to raise my children in a home filled to the brim and overflowing with God.  May the chains of abuse and rejection never take hold of my children, grandchildren, and so on.  
Exodus 20:6
but showing faithful love to a thousand generations of those who love Me and keep My commands.

"God's good from life's bad is one of the most liberating concepts in the entire Word of God.  We'll never be free until we truly believe that God can do something with anything.  God has promised to bring good out of anything we encounter as long as we love Him and if we allow Him to use it for His purpose (Romans 8:28). (p. 110)

God can turn pain and suffering into something beautiful and rewarding.  Invite Him to work miracles into your life and your ministry.

My love to all of my sisters in Christ who have suffered and are suffering.  Together with God, we can overcome pain and experience His great love, joy, and peace.  Let's run this race of life and show the world that Jesus is the victor and we are His forever.


  1. This sounds like an excellent book. I am working through the "A Woman's Heart" I am loving it and since I am towards the end of this book - I might just have to see if I can find this one next! Thanks for sharing, Lisa :O)

  2. I have found such peace in that book! My mom gave it to me a few years back when I was struggling with an eating disorder. I found freedom in the truth that Jesus is the victor and I can find confidence in His arms.
    Your story of pain turned into victory is so beautiful and incredibly encouraging. Thanks your willingness to share that glimpse into your heart!

  3. God definitely does take our pain and bless us, we just had a sermon about that this past weekend. I so love the fact that you pour your heart into these posts. :)

  4. I need to read this book. Thank you for sharing this with us. xx

  5. I have wanted to do this Bible Study for a long,long time, but it never works out. I think when the time is right for me, God will make it happen. So sorry you are feeling pain, but happy you are working your way through it and are more affirmed than ever about God's love for you! Hugs.

  6. As a psychologist, I have seen this type of pain in many children. I have also seen the cycle of abuse repeat. You have done so much good by taking your hurt and turning it into blessing. You are an inspiration to me every time I read. Thanks for sharing. xoxo

  7. i like how you said that God can turn pain and suffering into something beautiful and rewarding. It's hard to tel while you're in the middle of working through it but there is hope that at the end you will get to see what that reward it!

  8. This post was so very raw to read! Tender, slightly painful, and yet beautiful and inspirational - all at once! Thank you for sharing yourself and what you are learning in your study with us!
    This book in on my To Be Read list - along with "So Long Insecurity"

  9. yes He is the one to heal and restore. His promises are beautiful and will heal the pain. I'm so grateful to be able to run this race as well with Him alongside me. Thank you for writing from your heart, it really is an inspiration to others.

  10. Oh that book is so good- after having grown up in an abusive family and then leaving an abusive marriage, that book has probably changed my life more than any other. Found you through Megan's Leibster award and am excited to follow along!


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