Saturday, January 5, 2013

A godly mother...what does she look like?

I have often wondered what, exactly, a godly mother looks like.  What are God's expectations of us?  He has given me three wonderful children to raise.  Beyond anything else, I know I am to raise them to honor Jesus and live their lives according to Him.  I began searching through my Bible for specific Scriptures to teach and encourage me in my mothering.  Yes, I want them to tell their grandchildren wonderful stories of their mama, but, more importantly, I want them to love Jesus with a fire that cannot be contained.

My reading and praying have led me to understand that my mothering will not end when they leave for college.  Praise God, I will forever be their mother.  I am expected to uphold God's truths until He takes me home.  I am to lovingly guide them by word and example. 

My oldest son recently gave me a compliment that filled my soul with thankfulness to my sweet Jesus.  As we were driving, he asked me how I did such a good job with my children.  He said that they all knew Jesus and knew how to behave and treat people.  I wanted to stop the car and cry and hug him.  I can't even tell you the number of times I have felt like a failure.  I knew with certainty I had messed up big time.  I told him it wasn't me at all, it was Jesus.  I have relied on Him for everything.  I told my son that the only thing I knew to do was to treat my children the way Jesus would want me to.  He then gave me another compliment.  He asked if I would give him advice when he was a father.  He said he wanted his family to be just like ours. 

I don't tell you this to toot my horn.  I am not the perfect mother.  Visit my house for an extended period of time and this will be obvious.  I tell you this, because it is all God.  I want Him to receive the glory.

Listed are just a few Scriptures that teach about being a godly mother.

Deuteronomy 4:9
Only be on your guard and diligently watch yourselves, so that you don't forget the things your eyes have seen and so that they don't slip from your mind as long as you live.  Teach them to your children and grandchildren.
(We are to teach our children the ways of the Lord.  We are to be diligent in making certain that we teach them to love and honor God in all that they do.)

Ephesians 5:22
Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord.
(Society has made this such a negative thing.  It is a command from God, therefore, it obviously works and is for everyone's good.  Submission doesn't mean our husbands controlling us in any abusive manner.  We are to love our husbands and respect them.  Our children will see this and feel the safety and security of a household run by God.)

1 Timothy 5:8
Now if anyone does not provide for his own relatives, and especially for his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
(Providing definitely means our physical needs.  However, I believe it to mean providing love, support, encouragement, and discipline.)

James 1:22
But be doers of the Word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.
(We must walk the walk and not just talk the talk.  When our children see us behaving in ways that we tell them not to, that speaks much louder than our words.)

Proverbs 31
This portion of Proverbs is the instruction manual for being a woman, mother, and wife. 

"Give me a generation of Christian mothers and I will undertake to change the whole face of society in 12 months"....Lord Shaftesbury

Being a godly mother is not easy.  We are humans who are filled with pride, insecurities, and selfish ambitions.  However, when we put ourselves aside and look to our Father, our children will reap the benefits. 

May we look to Jesus in all we do.  He is the perfect parent willing to lead us and teach us.

Proverbs 31:28
Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:



  1. How lovely. Bless you as you continue to be the godly wife and mother our Lord has called you to be.

  2. What wonderful reminders of how to be a Godly mother. Thanks, Marci.

  3. What a great post...thank you for your insight. I pray every day that I can be the mother my children need me to be and God expects me to be. Have a great new year,
    Anyway, I found you on Let Them Eat Cake and so glad I did. I'm your newest follower :) Check out my blog sometime and feel free to follow back!
    The Real McCoy(s)

  4. To have your boy say that - to me that's the hallmark of how well you've raised him. He knows what a good and holy home looks like, because he lives in one and wants to give that to his kids. You're clearly doing a great job!

  5. Wow, Marci this post made me stop in my tracks. Being a wife and a mother are two of the greatest callings, and two of the most difficult things to do well. The simple way you turn the praise back to Jesus is such an example of how to love the family like Jesus loves. Your children are truly blessed by the way you have been salt and light for them.

    I often have this thought that I want a baby ASAP, but when I really get to thinking about it I am struck by the magnitude of this. To raise a child in the light of Christ, and to lead them well is incredibly huge and utterly impossible on my own strength. There is no way to mother well unless you are being filled up by the Holy Spirit. Oh sister, I so wish I lived right next door to me so you could share wisdom and guidance when Avery and I become parents. Thank you for the reminder that it is throught CHRIST ALONE that a family can unite and grow together. You are truly an amazing woman of God! So glad God sent a little encouragement through the word's of your son so you can fill up and press forward in this race.

    I will be saving this post to read later on down the road when I am holding my own little ones! Love you so much big sister!!! :)

  6. Thank you so much for sharing these verses with us. This is definitely something I strive towards everyday.


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