Friday, January 18, 2013

Our children deserve better

Deuteronomy 11:19
Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit in your house and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

Deuteronomy 4:9
Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them slip from your heart as long as you live.  Teach them to your children and to their children after them.

Recently, I was talking with a friend about her visit with her sister and her family over the Christmas holidays.  She told me a story that has cut me to the core.

My friend's niece is 17.  While my friend was sitting with her niece, the niece texted a boy she likes.  Her text read, "Wasup" (What's up for us oldies).  The boy texted her back, "My d***".  My friend was horrified that a boy would text that to her niece.  She immediately told her niece everything wrong with the text.

Her niece told her it was no big deal and that is just the way kids talk to each other these days.

Upset, she went to her sister and conveyed what had just happened.  Her sister told her the same thing her niece had...it's just the way kids talk these days.

My friend was still upset about the text and reaction to it when she went home.  She has a friend who is a school counselor and she asked her about the incident.  

The school counselor told her the same exact thing her sister and niece had....it's just the way kids talk these days.

NO!!

That is not the way respectable, God fearing people, regardless of age, should be talking.  AND....that is not the way a person is to be treated.

There are so many things wrong with this...
  1.  Where is the respect for women and self?
  2. Why does a parent think a child should be talked to this way?
  3. Why does a school counselor see this as ok?
  4. Where is God in all of this?
I could write a post a mile long on why this is harmful to our children and our society.  I won't though.

I will say that as parents, we must teach our children to live for God in everything they do.  We must teach them that respecting others and ourselves involves our speech, actions, and behaviors.

If my daughter was ever talked to this way I would be horrified.  I wouldn't be able to get to the boy fast enough because my husband would beat me to him.  My daughter knows how a man is to behave....she sees her daddy.

If I ever heard my sons speak (or text) in this fashion, they would lose every privilege ever given to them.  They would be escorted by me and my husband to the girl's home and apologize not only to her, but her parents as well.

Our children deserve better.  They deserve to know their worth in Christ Jesus.  

Ok, I'm jumping off of my soapbox now.  Here are some pictures from our week that I just love...


 I walked into Luke's room and he was playing with lego figures.  This picture melts my heart because his hands are still so little. He is still so young and I adore him.
 Be still my heart.  Emily and her daddy saying goodnight.

 Luke really wanted these basketball socks and I surprised him with them.  He was so excited!  He didn't want to wear his basketball shoes to play outside though...they may get messed up he said.
 Emily is in the air right after a volleyball serve.


Luke begged me to take a picture or a two of him dribbling the basketball between his legs.  Emily photo bombed it.  He had no idea!

Enjoy your weekend!!  Much love to everyone...xoxo

8 comments:

  1. I love your photos! I must get a real camera...my old digital is terrible, so now all my photos come from my phone or iPad.

    I completely agree with you about that awful text. It would not be tolerated in my house, with my kids or their friends. I do know that this is acceptable to many people, though. Very sad.

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  2. The things I hear walking the hallways of the junior high I work at absolutely breaks my heart. I am filled with sadness as I watch over the lunchroom and see the way they talk to and treat one another. I want to call each and everyone of their mama's and share the message of the hope that is in Christ, and the need for parents to display that to their kids. While it is discouraging to watch those students that are walking in darkness, I have to find those in the crowd that are living for Jesus. There is a specific group of girls that make a point to say hi to my class. There is a group of boys that will stand up for the kids that are picked on. I love seeing children like yours that are confident WHOSE they are!!
    Seriously, you are skilled with the camera. Those are absolutely wonderful!
    HAPPY FRIDAY!

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  3. I think all that goes to show that without Jesus, we have no hope. And WITH Jesus, have such hope! Your kids are blessed to have you and your husband raising them to follow Jesus, which includes treating others with respect and knowing they deserve to be treated with respect.

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  4. I share in your disgust and horror about that text to the young lady. That is so dishonouring and wrong. Society has really gone the wrong way.

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  5. Ugh, so sad and frustrating that this is what society deems acceptable now! I can only imagine what my parents would have done if they had read something like this written to me by a boy. It is so scary bringing children up these days in a world where they see such behavior around them as acceptable even by those in authority over them. You give me hope that we can raise our children to be different and set apart from all of this even in this crazy mixed up society. Lots of prayers for your kids!

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  6. I am sad that the boy sending the text and the girl receiving it think it is no big deal. I am angry and disgusted that the adults seem to think it is ok. When we worry about where the next generation is going we need to take a hard look at who is setting the example for them.

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  7. Your family photos are just precious. What sweet, sweet children. I am so saddened by hearing this about the text message. Our society is just scary these days. There is no respect, and kids are not ashamed of this kind of talk or behavior. It makes me glad that my children are adults now, but I wonder how it will be for their children. We are a society with very lax boundaries. Our best defense is to pray, constantly.
    xoxo.

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  8. Oh I feel the same way! Someone once asked me what was the most important thing we should teach or children. In one word respect. That has always been my motto, without respect for yourself and others you can never find true love, or a purpose in life. To me respect is sooo important, it is so sad that people have gotten so lax about it.

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