Saturday, November 10, 2012

Redemption~Realizing our beauty

I'm going to be honest, I often struggle with my appearance.  It is a great source of insecurity for me.  I will compare myself to other women and secretly wish I had their body, hair, clothes, etc.  I have expressed this before to women I know and they tell me I'm crazy.  I am 5'3" and weigh 110 pounds.  I wear a size 2.  I often hear that I don't look like I am 40.  I don't tell you these things to brag.  I want women (and men) to understand that security isn't in our size, it's in our hearts. 

The other day my husband and I had a discussion about a woman we know who desperately tries to attract the attention of men.  She dresses very provacatively and flirts with her eyes.  Do you know what kind of woman I am talking about?  I expressed my disdain and concern for the men she is around.  My husband said something that got this girl thinking.  He told me that a true man isn't attracted to that type of woman.  A true man is attracted to a self confident woman who loves her family and God (his wife).  As he was walking out of the room he said something that shook my heart.  He said it is not a real man who compares his wife to other women, it is women who compare themselves to women.

Isn't that the hard truth.  I started to wonder how much time I have spent comparing myself to other women, rather than celebrating the woman God created in me.  He lovingly formed my body, yet I constantly tell Him with my thoughts and behaviors that He didn't do a good job.  Conviction.....

Psalm 139:13-14
13  For it was You who created
my inward parts;
You knit me together
in my mother's womb.

14  I will praise You,
because I have remarkably
and wonderfully made.
Your works are wonderful,
and I know this very well.

I can say these verses over and over, but do I feel these verses?  Do I really get these verses? Sadly, I will have to say I don't.  My head hears them, but my heart doesn't. 

Today I will pray for redemption from my critical thoughts about God's creation of me.  I am determined to truly soak up these verses.  I choose to be glad with the body God gave me.  I am no fool, this will take great work on my part.  I will pray that Jesus helps me to see who I am to Him.  My part of this will be stopping hurtful thoughts as soon as they begin and replace them with truths. 

If you struggle too, are you willing to stand up for the woman God created in you?  Let's agree to honor God by truly loving ourselves.  He created us to worship and love Him.  When we are picking ourselves apart, how can we truly be loving Him?  I am ready to stop my comparison game and be free to love me and, more importantly, my wonderful man Jesus.



  1. I have read Psalm 139:13 many times, but I can't remember reading verse 14. Hard to remember that one of "his works" is me. Good reminder. Thank you.

  2. Wow, what a beautiful post! Thank you for the good reminder! I, too, can be insecure about certain things and I hope from now on my heart will hear God's words, not just my head. Thanks again, friend!


  3. This is a great post. Thank you for sharing. It's amazing to me that you can share such deep thoughts about your insecurities, but cannot see the beauty that we see. It takes great strength to put thoughts like that on the internet for, basically, all the world to see in an attempt to help yourself and others see the great creation that God made. THAT is beauty and selflessness.

    When my husband asks me about he looks in his dress clothes or something like that and he doesn't agree with my opinion, I always tell him, "I'm the one that's gotta look at you." I had to throw in a joke there. Sorry.

    You're beautiful. CELEBRATE. Proverbs 29:25 "It is dangerous to be concerned about what others think of you, but if you trust the Lord, you are safe." Trust that God has made you exactly how He wants you to be.


  4. Amen Amen Amen!! Fabulous post! I will absolutely be meditating on these verses :)

  5. Thank you. What a wonderful post.

  6. :) Beautiful! Favorite passage! I love how you connected redemption to our insecurities. Thank you Marci! Ephesians 3:17-19 <3

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  8. This spoke straight to my heart! It is funny because I have always struggled with this. I always thought if I could just be skinnier than I would finally be happy with the way I look. God, in His goodness, allowed me to witness life as a 00 and realize there was no life in a jean size. All too often, I find myself comparing myself to other women and convince myself that Avery is thinking the same thing. I have had too TALK to myself and not LISTEN to myself. When I let the lies take over, I ride a downward spiral towards complete self loathing. When I am actively talking to myself, I realize the glorious way God created me! Thanks lady :) I love you!!

  9. We talked about this at small group last week...I think this trips up most women. We should always remember Psalm 139. We talked about how everytime we start comparing ourselves, we need to look in the mirror and say "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made." It may be hard to say, but it's the truth. Maybe once we say it aloud so many times, we'll start to believe it? It's sad to think that we have to train ourselves to believe that we are a masterpiece just the way we are, but then again, we are human (that shouldn't be an excuse though). Enough of my rambling, haha...this was a great post that really made me think. Thanks for sharing your heart! <3

  10. I agree that women probably do a lot more comparing among themselves--and consider it innocent--than a God-fearing man does. I think we also both criticize ourselves and others far too much.


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