Saturday, October 27, 2012

31 days of love...day 27 (loving those we don't like)


I have a confession to make....

There are some people I just don't like.  Believe me, I have tried to like them but it's near impossible.  Please tell me I am not the only one who feels this way.  There are people you don't like, right??

I used to feel really guilty because God tells me to love EVERYBODY.  Uuuhh, really God? Everybody??  I began to think about His commandment to love my brothers and sisters.  I prayed about it and asked Him to change my heart.  What He changed was my thinking.  I realized it is ok if I don't like everybody.  What is not ok, is if I don't love them.  You see, liking someone is a feeling.  Loving the way God intends is an action.  I may dislike someone, but I am to be kind, generous, and godly when I am around that person (or people).  I may feel like being rude, but my actions must honor Jesus. 

Do you struggle with this too?  Remember, God knows our hearts and our intentions.  When we act upon a feeling we are forgetting the action He has called us to do....Love one another. 

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11 comments:

  1. GOOD MORNING! I love that I am not the only one who wakes up early on the weekends :)

    Oh girl, I so know how you feel! There are people I just don't like-but I am called to love them! In the "The Meaning of Marriage" by Timothy Keller (the book my small group is reading), Keller talks about how when you intentionally do kind things for others you can't help but love them. Your heart really transforms and you can see them like Jesus sees them. That was really powerful for me! Love is a verb...even when we don't feel like we like them much!

    Happy Saturday friend :)

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    1. That sounds like a great book. I will have to check it out. Isn't it the truth? When I show kindness it softens my heart and, at times, I am left wondering what I didn't like about the person.
      Have a great weekend my friend! xoxo

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  2. Yes, there are people I don't like. And I've also felt guilty. But you're right, loving someone in a way that honors God is different than liking them. You're not going to be friends with everyone and hang out with them. That's okay. But if I find myself around someone that I don't like I try to find and focus on the one thing about them that is a good quality. Yes, that is harder with some people but if I don't do that then it's easy to drift away from how God intends me to love.

    Coming by from Social Mix Blog Hop and following via GFC. What a lovely blog!

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    1. Thanks! I am heading to your blog. :-) xoxo

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  3. What a great post! I am so blessed in that respect. God gave me ADD (the medical kind, not the punchline kind). In the words of a dear friend, "it must be nice to always wear rose-colored glasses." Sometimes it truly does pay to not be able to pay attention.

    New GFC follower from Thumping Thursdays!

    Karina
    www.momintheusa.blogspot.com

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  4. OH YES!! I can SO identify with this post. I love this reminder about liking being a feeling but loving (as God commands) is an ACTION. I have more than a few people in my life who qualify for the list of EGR's (extra grace required, as Rick Warren calls them) and I have told myself some people are best loved from a distance but I am going to try harder to let my love come through in action instead of just toleration. thanks Marci.

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    1. I love that...EGR's! Fabulous way to look at it. :-)
      Oh, how I completely agree with you. Some people are truly best loved from a distance. If I'm around certain people, then I am not loving myself because they require me to treat them like victims...no can do!!
      Have a great weekend! xoxo

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  5. Love it, the bible study that I am currently doing is love its called "Love Relieved"

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  6. This is something I struggle with often, as well. Thank goodness the Bible doesn't say we must "like" one another.

    BTW thanks for commenting so often on my blog!

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  7. Marci-You are not the only one! I am a work in progress in this area as well. Something I have noticed is that if I treat someone who "rubs me the wrong way" the way I should, I often begin to see very positive things in them. I hope others who may not "like" me will grant me the same grace.

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